I just realized during a conversation with my son, who just happens to be gay, that gay and lesbian couples will never have the experience of the “oops, I’m pregnant” situation.
There are no birth control worries or the anticipation of reading a pregnancy test.
They have to actually plan the logistics of having a child. They must think of how much money it costs to have and raise a child, the adoption requirements, fees, and timeline, who is getting (whom) pregnant, and how? And a lot more stuff that I don’t even know to ask.
There is no ability to just, one day, up-and-have a baby.
Many things are a positive for the couple. But still too many things are missing. My son expressed some sadness that he and his partner don’t have the opportunity to just naturally be a growing family, like a fertile heterosexual can be.
I feel for him and for the men and women in his situation. I take being a parent for granted because I could just “oops” one day and start a family (back in my fertile days).
I recently posted about really wanting to be a grandmother. I have grown up a little since then.
Thank you for reading.
Lisa
Featured header image: (c) 2018 Lisa Ramsey, “If I Could Fly”, acrylic on canvas, Native American Painting Six (6).
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